6 TYPES OF ORGASMS AND HOW TO ACHIEVE THEM

There are numerous ways to experience this type of orgasm, and if you have a clitoris that you enjoy stimulating, you likely already know that there are various methods to reach that peak. Clitoral orgasms are greatly influenced by your individual preferences for stimulation. Whether you prefer high intensity, low intensity, specific repetitive motions, or deep, rumbly sensations, all of these approaches can lead to a clitoral orgasm. It’s all about discovering what works best for you!

Clitoral orgasms can be remarkably intense. The external part of the clitoris, known as the glans clitoris, contains around 10,000 nerve endings, but there’s also a whole internal structure (the clitoral body) that extends into two ‘legs’ surrounding the vestibular bulbs, which swell when you’re aroused. Some studies suggest that the point where these ‘legs’ meet is the G-spot, indicating that the G-spot is actually part of the clitoral structure. This connection might help explain why clitoral orgasms can feel so powerful and all-encompassing.

Here are some methods to excite the clitoris:

• Try using your fingers
• Experiment with a vibrator or suction toy
• - Add friction by rubbing against clothes, using a pillow, or a grinding toy
• Change positions to vary the pressure on the clitoris
• Explore different techniques like tapping, slow circles, fast circles, high pressure, light pressure, and more
• Have your partner use their mouth for oral sex

The climax experienced by individuals with penises is often associated with the typical physical response. The penis is stimulated through repetitive motions and friction, leading to an explosive release known as ejaculation. While testicle stimulation may also play a role, not all penis orgasms result in ejaculation. It's worth noting that the ejaculation itself is more of a physiological reaction rather than a pleasure-driven outcome. Increased heart rate, high blood pressure, and pelvic muscle contractions are common during a penis orgasm. Even if little to no ejaculate is released, the intensity and pleasure of the orgasm remain unchanged.

Ways to excite the penis are:

• gently teasing the shaft with sensation play tools like ticklers or pinwheels
• stroking it with hands
• using manual or vibrating masturbators for stimulation
• stimulating the head, shaft, and balls with oral sex
• using a penis pump to increase sensitivity by engorging the shaft
• engaging in vaginal or anal penetration with a partner

The mysterious G-spot orgasm has intrigued individuals since its identification in 1950 by Ernst Gräfenberg, an obstetrician and gynecologist who devoted his career to understanding female sexual anatomy and pleasure. Its fame grew in the 1980s, largely due to the work of pioneering sexologist Dr. Beverly Whipple, leading many to pursue G-spot orgasms, though success rates remain relatively low. Research suggests that only 15-30% of those with G-spots can achieve this type of orgasm. So, if you've tried and haven't succeeded, you're definitely not alone in this journey.

Luckily, recent research into female sexual anatomy has shed light on this topic, which we touched on earlier. The G-spot isn't a distinct part of the genital structure; rather, it's part of the broader clitoral network. Essentially, stimulating the G-spot can be seen as a unique way to stimulate the internal parts of the clitoris. It’s all interconnected in the pursuit of pleasure!

The G-spot is situated about 2-3 inches inside the vagina, along the front wall. It's a cluster of tissue that many describe as having a different texture compared to the surrounding areas—often thicker, with ridges, and slightly rougher to the touch, becoming engorged when aroused.

Once you locate this area, it's suggested to use a ‘come hither’ motion, applying gentle, repetitive pressure to stimulate the nerves there. Many find that consistent, patterned pressure on the G-spot can lead to a G-spot orgasm. However, it's important to remember that not everyone can achieve orgasm this way, and that’s perfectly normal. Every body is unique, and there’s nothing wrong with you! The key is to enjoy the exploration.

Here are some methods to enhance G-spot stimulation:

• Try a ‘come hither’ motion with your fingers.
• Use an internal toy, whether it vibrates or not, with the same ‘come hither’ technique; many find that pressure is more important than vibration for G-spot pleasure.
• Consider a dual-action vibrator to stimulate both the clitoris and G-spot simultaneously, as they share the same nerve connections!
• Incorporate Kegel balls into your routine.
• Explore various positions to find the most effective angle.
• Engage in penetration for added stimulation.

Some may find that achieving a P-spot orgasm is just as challenging as achieving a G-spot orgasm, but there is a lot of research to support its existence! The prostate, also known as the P-spot, is made of similar tissue to the G-spot and is located on the outside of the anal cavity of cis-males. It is situated just below the bladder and surrounds the top portion of the tube that drains urine from the bladder.

The primary function of the prostate gland is to produce the fluid contained in semen, allowing sperm to be transported from the testicles and through the penis. As individuals with prostates age, the prostate usually grows larger in size, causing uncomfortable symptoms similar to those from UTIs. Prostate cancer is also an issue, affecting 13% of people with prostates. Many studies show that regular stimulation or ‘milking’ of the prostate not only feels incredibly pleasurable, but also helps prevent health issues that may arise later down the line.

To experiment with prostate play, it's important to be cleaned up, relaxed, and aroused. Some people use enemas to clean themselves out, but it’s not necessary. You want the area and your hands or whatever safe sex toy you’re using to be clean. Relax your body by engaging in some foreplay first; relaxation is absolutely key! Being tense will make inserting anything anally feel painful, so concentrate on relaxing your muscles and your mind. Also, make sure you’re using lubrication as the anal cavity does not produce its own. This will make being in a state of relaxation much easier.

If you’re using fingers, externally stimulate the opening of the anus and surrounding nerves first before slowly inserting one finger one to two inches inside.

Techniques to activate the P-spot involve:

• Using fingers for internal or external stimulation on the perineum
• Utilizing prostate massagers (vibrating or non-vibrating; pressure is crucial just like with G-spot stimulation as discussed previously)
• Trying different positions to find the correct angle, especially when exploring alone as it can be hard to reach
• Using a weighted anal toy that provides pressure automatically
• Engaging in penetration
• Using a versatile toy such as a cock ring + butt plug hybrid to stimulate various parts of the genital anatomy.

Anal orgasms for individuals with penises are essentially the same as prostate orgasms, just with a different name. However, for those with vaginas, the experience is different due to the absence of a prostate. Sometimes referred to as A-spot orgasms, pleasure from anal penetration in ciswomen is a result of indirectly stimulating the A-spot in the vagina. The A in A-spot stands for anterior fornix, the deepest part of the vagina located just before the cervix, about 4-6 inches past the opening. Unlike the sponginess of the G-spot, the A-spot feels smooth, similar to the rest of the vaginal wall. This can make it challenging to locate within the vagina, but because it's in direct line of sight from the anal cavity, some find it easier to stimulate it from that angle.

Additionally, for some individuals, stimulation near the cervix can be uncomfortable. Indirectly stimulating the A-spot through anal penetration can help avoid any discomfort that may arise from direct A-spot stimulation in the vagina.

There are various methods to explore anal stimulation and achieve orgasms, such as:

• incorporating anal toys such as plugs or beads
• using fingers to stimulate the anus internally and externally
• trying anal penetration
• changing positions to find the perfect angle for your pleasure
• experimenting with double penetration.